What if “the one” decides to join Ok Cupid or just as you take down your masterpiece?
I once worked in an office with a free M&M dispenser down the hall from my desk. But before I knew it I was hooked on a handful or two of those little sugar pills at 3pm every day like clockwork.
Other times we don't date because we are afraid of finding our old dating patterns resurfacing.
We fear that if it doesn't work out again, we will have confirmation that we just can't get it right.
The same thing can happen in dating and relationships.
After all, you’ve spent months perfecting your profile. If you are someone who knows you have taken a long break from dating as a result of fear, rather than an intentional desire for space and healing, take a small step out of your comfort zone this week. Smile at someone you find attractive while you're waiting in line for your morning coffee. And while it's OK to give ourselves however much time we need to heal, sometimes these prolonged bouts of singledom come from avoidance and fear.In other words, when this "break" from dating comes in the form of a defense mechanism that is not born out of intention, it's often not serving us.